Welcome everyone and thanks for visiting. I am hopeful that you might find some of the answers you have been looking for about yourself, who you are and why you might be feeling "Less Than" as a man or young boy. Is your self esteem in question? Do you have low or no self esteem? Do have over whelming feelings of shame arising from no where and for no apparent reason? Do you have a hard time engaging in a general conversation with people at a social gathering because you have no self worth, you feel your opinions and words are empty and meaningless? Do you have a hard time interacting with other men and women or for boys with other boys and girls? These are just a few of the signs I know of that can put a red flag up for some form of abuse. While our main focus is on sexual molestation, emotional, spiritual, physical and verbal abuse can be equally damaging to the male Psyche. And if you are like me and have experienced a combination of all of these abuse issues, it is devastating. It is important to know that I am not a licensed professional and I do not have a PHD as of yet. I do however have a PH-DO in life and am working on getting the credentials needed to become a PHD. So when I speak, I am speaking from what I have learned about myself in talking with Professional therapist over the years as well as working and talking with men that have suffered from the abuse at the hands of someone they were taught to trust, rather the perpetrator was a male or female does not matter, it's all abuse.

In the pages to come, I will be adding my story and stories of other survivors as well as having an open and confidential forum to discuss the challenges of life we are walking through in this process as well as processing our feelings. I will also be having links to qualified therapist, survivor groups, as well as input, feedback and suggestions from professionals.

I ask for your patience while I continue to build this site. In the mean time feel free to write me a note on our blog page and let me know whats on your mind or talk about any fears you have of starting this healing journey. It takes a lot of Courage to walk thru this and you can not do it alone.

The most recent statistics state that one in four girls and one in six boys have been sexually abused before the age of 18 years old. . These are only reported cases, 
I  am sure the statistics are far greater. So rememeber, your not alone, even though it feels like you are. We are here to help you.

Namaste - Randy